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One in Six Males Victimized by Sexual Violence

Trauma comes in many forms – witnessing violence, experiencing accidental physical trauma, being victimized by assault physically or/and emotionally, and the slow daily aggressions that come to those raised in environments of abuse and neglect. One of the most under...

Kimchi or Chemicals?

Recently I was at dinner with a dear friend who encouraged me to take a taste of her kimchi (a fermented cabbage that is a staple of the Korean diet). Though I’d heard of its purported unpleasant aroma, I was delightfully surprised by its zesty and pleasing taste. It...

Soul: The Basement of the Psyche

It is popular to speak of spirituality today. Many will say that they are “spiritual but not religious.” I’m not here to make an argument for or against religion, as some religions do, and some do not contribute to a person’s sense of soul. I am here to sound a...

Breaking The Cycle Of Invalidation

“Why do I always think that I’m somehow responsible when I experience abuse? Why do I feel confused when I know I did nothing to deserve the abuse I’m receiving? Why do I stay in abusive situations?” Her mother’s messages were, “Don’t do anything to embarrass me;...

A Simple Path To Intimacy

Note that the title does not say “easy,” but “simple.” There is, of course, a big difference. Intimacy can only be achieved as the result of the development of three prior conditions. I’ll list them in order with each followed by an arrow pointing to the next...